He flew me out for a visit, and then …

Then we started messaging for a random reason, and he kept saying, on a loop, 'Hey, you should visit me in Texas. You should visit me in Texas.You should visit me in Texas.' And I was like, 'Maybe this guy wants something more than the week we had.' Essentially what would happen is that I would continue to say no, and he would do grand gestures. Finally, I caved in. I went to Texas. And within that short weekend (two nights), he never asked any questions — or he was just not interested in any of my interests at all. He just kept calling me pretty. But it's not enough. I left extremely unsatisfied because it turned out he was basically only love-bombing me, I think. I don't know how to classify it. All of that said, I don't know if this guy wants a relationship. He flew me out. He did all of these grand gestures beforehand. But then when I was in it, he even said, at one point — as if he was trying to turn me off — that he was 'not a hard worker.' He has not texted since the trip. I texted him, 'Thank you for the trip.' He said, 'You're welcome back anytime.' And that was pretty much it. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I deserve something more from him. Any advice would be great. A.You got a free trip to Texas, I guess. You also learned that you are not compatible with this man. You ask what you should do now, and what you deserve. Let's start with 'deserve.' Myassumptionis that you got to his place and he wasn't as excited about seeing you anymore. Then, because of his behavior, you weren't either. At that point, you were both fumbling through the rest of the trip. I suppose it would have been nice if he had texted you after the weekend to say, 'I'm so grateful you came to visit. I didn't feel like it was a match — and I'm sorry about that, and that I wasn't better company — but I hope you had a fantastic time anyway.' But maybe that would have made it worse. What should you do now? Let yourself feel disappointed and annoyed. Then move on. It doesn't require any action. He didn't wrong you terribly, right? Maybehelearned a lesson about getting too excited (the love-bombing part of this), because he's the one who spent the money to get you there. Bad feelings can make some of us feel like we need todoorresolvesomething, but there is no agenda right now. You learned that grand gestures don't always mean much, and that you'd rather meet someone who's curious about you. What a great thing to know. This experience has served its purpose. I wouldn't expect any more from him and I wouldn't go back to see him again, even if he offers to fly you there again. Next time, stick with your initial instincts and say no and leave it at that. You could have avoided all of this if you had. You admit to not continuing the connection on your end at first either; it started off as lukewarm at best, right? I 100 percent understand being turned off at the nonchalance and non-curiosity; that's a common thing with dudes who aren't invested. No matter — Mere's right: You learned you're both just not that into each other. Lesson learned. Now: Proceed to date guys in your geo. You spent a weekend with a guy. You didn't like him very much. Neither of you has followed up to keep something going. What additional closure do you need? Not every situation requires a deep analysis or diagnosis. Send your own relationship and dating questions to loveletters@globe.com orfill out this form.Catch new episodes ofMeredith Goldstein's 'Love Letters' podcastwherever you listen to podcasts. Column and comments are edited and reprinted fromboston.com/loveletters.